10:03 AM
* Back after a short hiatus. Just started my new job in Singapore.
Hey Guys,
This is the second installment of my analysis into suicide cases after my previous post on famous korean female celebrities suicide. I'm gonna share something that is going to be really disturbing with everyone. So if you are depressed or weak, it's best not to read.
368,000. Yes, that's the big number in 2012. No, that's not the number of suicide cases in the world. It's the number of searches per month, to look for the solution to commit suicide. It's an alarming rate! Do a simple maths calculation and that is 4.4 million searches a year! It makes you wonder why. Is the world getting more and more depressed?
How to commit suicide - 368,000 searches globally per month
You may think that I am being paranoid and that this figure reflects nothing but simply the work of stupid but curious people surfing the net and they don't really mean to take any action on it. HELL NO! In 2011, the suicide rates have increased 7 times more than 2010. (source: 1011now).
Ok. So what's the number 1 "Killing yourself" reason? It's a no brainer. It's depression! You have seen it. You have heard about it. You read about it somewhere. You thought that it wouldn't happen to Tom, Dick, Joe and Mary. But hell, when they are gone, you start to reflect. What causes depression?
Off my mind, I can instantly think of the top 3 reasons:
1) Relationship trouble
Famous among teenagers or youngsters. It almost seems like when a relationship ended, it is the end of the world. The world seems smaller and more meaningless. The dark cloud covers the daily life and going on seems to be a pain. One of the most famous suicide cases was a Malaysian young chap, the 22 year-old Alviss Kong.
Alviss Kong and his ex girlfriend
Alviss made a shocking announcement to the world on facebook prior to taking his life and his friends thought that he was pulling a prank for some sicko attention seeking reasons. Well, he garnered over hundreds of comments and guess what..... 204 likes! What kind of person will do that? SOMEONE is counting down to his death and you click "like"? Bleeding Christ.
2) Pressure of chasing success
IS PROSPERITY a killer? Yes, it could be. In a developed nation like Singapore, kids are having early childhood education pressure. These days, most children spent their time attending tuition classes right after school. Swimming, tennis, music and ballet lessons happen during the weekends. Home work and additional reading is a daily routine. Such was the hectic life of a children in a developed nation. Competition is tight. You are either one of the bests or you will suffer like the rest. Parents forcing and threatening children to study hard are a norm. In June 2011, Krystal Aki Mizoguchi, an 18-year-old girl fell to her death in Ang Mo Kio, Singapore.
Krystal Aki Mizoguchi
In her last blog post "Crash and Burn", she spoke of her broken dreams after poor A-Level exam results. Rumor has it that, relationship trouble was also a cause to her demise. Let's face it. There are billions of people living in this world but there are hardly enough jobs for everyone. Hell, there are hardly enough food for some people living in poor countries. In a dog-eat-dog world, only the fittest survive. In short, my friend, we are no different from baby crocodiles.
Over in South Korea, an 18 year old boy has committed suicide in the city of Daejeon - just hours before he was due to take a university entrance exam.
Suicide before exam
3) Financial difficulty
It is no surprise that the fall of the economy always causes suicide cases to rise. It's a case of "you can no longer afford to live". Bills are coming, debts are mounting and the endless desire that needs fulfilling. Often is the case that being poor is a major embarrassment to many people in this world.
An out-of-work money manager in California loses a fortune and wipes out his family in a murder-suicide. A 90-year-old Ohio widow shoots herself in the chest as authorities arrive to evict her from the modest house she called home for 38 years. In Massachusetts, a housewife who had hidden her family's mounting financial crisis from her husband sends a note to the mortgage company warning: "By the time you foreclose on my house, I'll be dead." (source: Huffingtonpost)
Texas Mayor, Jayne Peters also found herself in such desperate situation that she decided to take her daughter's and her own life with gunshots.
Jayne and Corrine Peters
Some famous suicides
1) Leslie Cheung
He is arguably one of the most famous celebs of Asia. I was a fan of Leslie. His movies like "A Chinese Ghost Story", "Once a thief" and "He's a woman, She's a man" are unforgettable. A man with such an illustrious career suddenly found himself at the end of the road when he leap from the 24th floor of Mandarin Oriental on 1 April 2003. He was 46. Depression has been cited as the main reason for his suicide that shock the world.
Leslie Cheung
2) Roh Moo-Hyun, ex-President of South Korea
As the President of South Korea, Mr. Roh was seen as the person who will root out corruption, by his ardent supporters. Ironically, it was corruption cases against him that brought him to his end. Roh and his family has been accused of using borrowed funds for personal use. Overwhelmed by shame and the pressure of corruption scandal surrounding his family, Roh took his life on 23 May 2009 by jumping from a 45-meter cliff. He left his final words before departing. Personally, I really feel sorry for the ex-President. His last words were:
"I am in debt to so many people. I have caused too great a burden to be placed upon them. I can't begin to fathom the countless agonies down the road. The rest of my life would only be a burden for others. I am unable to do anything because of poor health. Do not be too sad. Isn't life and death all a part of nature? Do not be sorry. Do not feel resentment toward anyone. It is fate. Cremate me. And leave only a small tombstone near home. I've thought on this for a long time."
Mr Roh's Funeral
3) Lee Yoon-Hyung, daughter of former Samsung chairman
A classic story of "Poor little rich girl". Young, beautiful, clever and bless with fortune of billions, Lee subsequently hanged herself in her Manhattan home. Her death has been a mystery and there were only mild rumors of her failed relationship with a Korean boyfriend due to the pressure from the family because of the guy's lowly status, has been circulating around. I really don't comprehend rich people. What is more important than the happiness and health of your children?
Lee Yoon-Hyung
My view on life and suicide
I figured that, life has too much of a value. Perhaps to some people, it has over-exaggerated its value to the extent that they believe the after-life is a better place. Nevertheless, my view is that, God sent us here for a reason. Perhaps to learn. Hence, it will be disappointing to book an early ticket home.
So what is life after suicide? It's a scary journey. Very scary. My assumption is that, people who are not supposed to die will never get to leave this world until the time is up. They will wander as a lost soul. Living in a world that they cannot touch or feel. Ever heard of people seeing ghost? How do you explain that? If you read my 2nd blog posts (which was many years ago), you would know that I had experienced of seeing them and it's no bullshit.
So the conclusion is, Alviss, Krystal Aki, Leslie Cheung, Mr. Roh, Corinne Peters, Lee Yoon-Hyung and many others may still be around in this world (unless their time is up). And they are now wandering as lost souls, waiting for their time to go. I don't know about you. I think that kind of life is even more depressing!
May those who has left us, rest in peace.
XOXO,
Dillon
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18 comments:
outright scary
Why do you always post stuff like this?
I think you are addicted to all these scary things
Me addicted? Curiosity is more like it. Knowing the problem and knowing how to face it is the best way to avoid it. :)
Why do I always post stuff like that? Well, I like it. I like discussing topics of such. Am I not entitled to my freedom of speech? :)
I was actually looking through some sites about how one might commit suicide. Reason why is because my wife's co-worker and a friend just ended her life on March 26, 2012. She just got engaged 2 weeks before she took her life and she was 4 months pregnant. Shes hanged herself in the closet where her Fiance and brother lives and was discovered by her Fiance when he got home from work. It was just so out of the blue and tragic that she took her own life. She was LOVED by many, had LOTS of support but even though with all these people around her they didn't see any signs that one might think that she was suicidal. She did mention about being depressed due to her pregnancy and not having been being able to sleep for a week. It breaks my heart that she had to take her own life along with her unborn child. It's even worst to know that she planned out this whole thing out by searching for it online on how to commit suicide. I too feel that when people take their own lives they are trapped in this world. God put us on this earth for a reason and when one takes their own life is probably the worst thing that you can do. I do pray that God will have mercy on her soul and pray that isn't suffering anymore. We would never really know what one goes through when they think that taking their own lives is the answer. But I hope people will take small signs of trouble into consideration when someone is in need of support rather than brushing it off as a joke.
Oh my God. I am truly sorry to hear about this. Sometimes life is just so painful. People tends to hurt others without thinking. Victims are always the ones that feel that they are trapped. It's more than just depression. They are trapped in their own emotion or their own situation.
It's hard to reach out sometimes. They act normal and then the next thing they would shock the hell out of you.
Dillon, this is a great sight. I think suicide brings relief to a person even before it is carried out. It feels like when you know something is going to happen (anything you may wait for) and the nearer to it you come, the more you want it to happen - like Chrstmas, losing weight, curing ones acne. So, I have been there and think about it almost daily. I can't say I'll never do it. I think my mom would be crushed and feel guilty somehow. That keeps me from it, but I don't know how long I can manage. I not exactly miserable daily, just unhappy with life.
honeyone, you can email to me and talk to me ok? Dont let it get into you. There are more to life. I promise. I may not have the best solutions but I have plenty of suggestions.
My email: dillonyong@gmail.com
honeyone.......Please what ever you do DON'T END YOUR LIFE!!!! There's 7 billion on this earth and I'm sure you're bound to find someone who is willing to help you out in your situation. People can grasp and understand more when someone dies a natural death but when one kills themselves it just hurts them more and makes them feel guilty for the rest of their lives. So PLEASE..seek help where ever it maybe...online...church...friends.
God Bless and Good Luck.
Honeyone,
This is crazy. Life can have so many more meanings. Have you been to the full moon party in Koh Phangan? Have you been to Ibiza island in Spain?
There's so much more to life than you ever think.
Hello,
I did read the full post and I think you`re right. Life is too damn pretty and rewarding to just "skip" the experience. I do hope that other people understand this as well. I thought of killing myself at least once, but then I thought about GOD and the people that gave me life.
We were meant to be here, the thing is that no one will tell you why exactly. It`s a journey you must fulfill yourself.
Best,
from Romania
Dear all,
I have been looking into to ways to take my own life as well. For over 13 years i have suffered from depression and i'm not 30 yet and i'm literally exhausted. I tired of talking too. This sight gave me perspective maybe not the one most people would advise but thanks
i'm going to end my life, can't take it anymore the pain tht i go true........my ex boyfriend already left me but i'm still love him so much, no parents,i'm orphan, resign my job as manager last 1month ago, never get any job until now....all my cash and saving finish....
Oh my God. Talk to me. I am all ears. Please email to dillonyong@gmail.com
Please dont end your life. Just email to me. I will listen.
i think suicide is hard when u have a family to take care of.
Suicide may look like an easy way out which in fact it is not. As I mentioned in my blog post, you'll be trapped in a world where you can only see but cant feel.
There are always difficulties in life. While you live, you can still fix it. If you choose to die, then you can only see how others suffer for your loss.
How to live happily? I dont have an answer. Happiness cant be defined in a simple way as everyone has a different target in life.
Outline the things that can make you happy and go for it. I have heard of people travelling around the world just to rediscover themselves. Go for it.
There are 24 hours telephone lines in many countries that can be called when you feel like you cannot cope with life.
The person answering will listen to you, will not judge you, will NOT refer to religion, and just may help you.
If you are in Australia call Lifeline anytime anyday on
13 11 14. Or go to www.lifeline.org.au for one-on-one chat from 8pm to midnight.
We care.
There are 24 hours telephone lines in many countries that can be called when you feel like you cannot cope with life.
The person answering will listen to you, will not judge you, will NOT refer to religion, and just may help you.
If you are in Australia call Lifeline anytime anyday on
13 11 14. Or go to www.lifeline.org.au for one-on-one chat from 8pm to midnight.
We care.
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